When clients ask me how to improve their communication skills, it’s very, very rare that I actually see problems with their communication. What I really see is that people are communicating very well, and what they’re communicating when they think they’re having problems is, “I’m right, you’re wrong.” The problem isn’t communication. You’re letting…
A lot of people believe that in order to be a rockstar, they need to sell a bunch of albums first. When one of their records goes platinum, or they sell a certain number, then they can officially call themselves a rockstar. This is a common pattern for a lot of people in any…
Have you ever heard the phrase “failing with honor”? When you fail with honor, it means “Well I didn’t succeed, but I still feel pretty good about it.” This sounds like a noble ideal. There is definitely honor in accepting failure and learning from it. However, the concept of “failure with honor” has some hidden…
People tend to use affirmations a lot. The problem with affirmations, because we’re an emotionally-diminished culture, they’re just saying what it is that you’re affirming. Maybe it’s real. Maybe it’s not. If you remember back to the Stewart Smalley SNL skit . . . “I’m good enough. I’m strong enough, and dog gone it, people…