Top 10 Reasons Most Relationships Aren’t Magical

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1. Your psychology is built on avoiding failure and as a consequence, if you don’t get a divorce, you are successful.

2. You don’t believe that YOU are magical; “after the honeymoon” you certainly don’t believe that your spouse is magical… so how can the marriage be magical?

3. You have never really seen magic up close and personal, therefore, you aren’t even sure what it would mean to you, value, or how to do it.

4. There is no real plan to create one (no details, no follow through, no nothing…)

5. You do not gather the references or resources that you will need to succeed at that level or to assist in the process.

6. While you may intellectually think you SHOULD try it (once you hear it, anyway,) you are not emotionally attached to it, and/or, you are MORE emotionally attached to “I’m right” or “it’s their fault,” thus, negating any real energy that you want this.

7. There is a complete lack of clarity  as to what “magical” means to either one of you  – the desires are not specific or concise… (“I will work on my marriage.”  “I want to fight less.”)

8. You MUST know WHY you want this.  If the “why” is big enough, the “how’s” become automatic.  If not, you will block yourself by not finding the “how.”

9. (This one can be a bit complex,) you really DON’T want what you say you want… (Does the overweight person want to be thin?)  “It’s too hard,” or “I must give up too much,” or something causes you not to want it.

10. So based on the first nine, you believe that it is not in the cards for you… if you can just stay together… that’s good.  And if it is good… well, that’s really GREAT.